Why do we shout when we are angry ?

Recently in one of the children magazine i read this short story. I felt it is the story /Message that everybody should know.

This is my gentle effort to all the readers to make them know something about themselves

This one is a lovely mail and you should read it….. A good one too……..I am sure you will like it.
A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.'
'But,
why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the
saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why
do you shout at a person when you're angry?'
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.
Finally
he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts
distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to
hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to
shout to hear each other through that great distance.'
Then
the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't
shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very
close. The distance between them is very small...'
The
saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other
in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at
each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they
love each other.'

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other

Would request everyone to practice the same.

Happy reading :-)

Do you need to fail?

This is the question always I ask for my self? I hope everybody would have asked this question to themselves some point of time or they would have asked others?

If i ask myself or anybody about their top five moments of their career/life when it took leap forward - I feel failure was always on the list. For some it was a project gone bad. For some it was the loss of a job.And for others still it was the failure of a larger system, like an economic downturn, that required them to step up.

This where I learned the concept of fixed mindset and growth mindset. Let me explain this further:
If you believe that your talents are inborn or fixed, then you will try to avoid failure at all costs because failure is proof of your limitation. People with a fixed mindset like to solve the same problems over and over again. It reinforces their sense of competence.

Children with fixed mindsets would rather redo an easy jigsaw puzzle than try a harder one. CEOs with fixed mindsets will surround themselves with people who agree with them. They feel smart when they get it right.

But if you believe your talent grows with persistence and effort, then you seek failure as an opportunity to improve. People with a growth mindset feel smart when they're learning, not when they're flawless

If you have a growth mindset, then you use your failures to improve. If you have a fixed mindset, you may never fail, but neither do you learn or grow.

After understanding/reading this, when i think about growth mindset,the name that click my brain is Mr.Big B (Amitabh Bachan).He has seen all the ups and downs of his life/career. But he used all those to grow/improve, whether it is failures in the beginning of his career or in the middle of his career or his production house ABCL.
He was never afraid of failure and that really one of the example of Growth mindset.

A growth mindset is the secret to maximizing potential.

This is just an open discussion.